I TALK TO MYSELF and I Answer Back!!!

                Good Morning.  If you were captivated by my title and admission that I “talk to myself” you might be wondering if I am saying Good Morning to myself, or to my readers.  The answer is BOTH.  I am here to say to all of you that “talking to yourself” can be good.

                Many times in my life I have talked to myself, I talk to myself on a regular basis.  Sometimes the conversations were based in sadness and anger, sometimes they were based in boredom, and other times they were Just Plain Silly.  No matter what I’m saying to myself, I realize it’s important.

                You may be wondering what’s so important and beneficial about talking to yourself.  Let’s see…First of all I believe you should be your own best friend.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t have other friends.  Friends and close relationships with other people are ABSOLUTELY Necessary to have a healthy and happy life.  What I am saying is that in order to be a good friend and a loving person with others, you need to start within yourself.

                Another benefit of talking to yourself is that you can work through sensitive issues with the person you trust the most, yourself.  Often times people are hesitant to share sensitive issues with others out of fear.  If we can talk to ourselves we can have a DRESS REHERSAL for sharing.  We can practice different ways of communication in safety.

                Yet another benefit of talking to yourself is LOVE…even more specific, self-love.  Loving yourself is of the utmost importance if you want to share in Positive Loving relationships with others.  If you can’t be alone or find something you like or love about yourself this is often a precursor to negative interactions with others. 

                Talking to yourself can be a valuable tool for growth.  Keep in mind that most TOOLS are guidelines and if not practiced properly can turn into Bad Habits.  Remember that talking to yourself is NOT a REPLACEMENT for interaction with other people.  Remember that if you dwell in negative Self-Talk it is not going to help you grow or work through things. 

                It’s ok to share your good and bad emotions, as long as you work towards a healthy balance.  Don’t pretend to be happy and perfect all the time, but work to keep from dwelling in negativity.

To The Universe

LOVE BRANDY

To find your path...LISTEN

                The Universe never lets up. Do you know the Universe is always talking to us, it’s just waiting for us to listen. The Universe is always offering us a path to our dreams. We must keep our eyes and ears open so the Universe can guide us.

                An important thing to remember as we walk our path is that it is rarely a straight line. The Universe gives us opportunities to alter our path to fit our needs all the time, whether it be daily or even hourly. Don’t ignore these whispers just because they are coming at you fast, grab hold of your future because it starts today.

                Now don’t despair because the Universe isn’t yelling at you about your path daily. If the Universe isn’t yelling at you every day, if your not seeing the signs of your future every hour don’t despair. 

                Remember the Universe doesn’t care about YOUR TIMEFRAME, it’ll will give you what you want and need at the opportune moment. The Universe can see where you are going long before you can. Most Importantly is to have the BELIEF that what you want and need WILL COME.

                The Universe will respond to your Belief, never give up, never stop believing, and the Universe WILL manifest a wonderful existence.

To The Universe

Love Brandy

Be an Active Participant in Your Life!!!

                Good Morning Universe, here’s to everyone showing up to their lives today.  Showing up isn’t just your physical presence.  Showing up to Your Life requires work.  If you want to live a happy and fulfilled life you HAVE TO BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT.   A great place to start is to search out people, places, and things that inspire you. 

You can create your own inspiration through activities like personal writings, poetry, and art.  You should have time set aside to share in the information a beauty created by others by reading and watching things that are based in positivity. 

Make these types of behaviors into your habits.  It can seem difficult with all the things we can engage in to pass our time.  Many times I have just wanted mindless entertainment, which can be enjoyable, but not if I base my life around it. 

Get Pumped about change, but stick with it!!!  I didn’t want to put in the effort or hear other people talk about The Power of Change because I wasn’t ready to commit.  I didn’t believe in myself and didn’t want to make positive use of my time. 

My habits were based in familiarity.  My habits were based in comfort.  My habits didn’t include time for positive self-reflection and growth.  My habits were basically formed by my Fear of Change.

 

Today I am INSPIRED by the positive habits I am forming.  I still experience Fear, but I now revel in overcoming that fear.  I am really starting to enjoy building a life from “good” desires and “positive” experiences.

What kinds of behaviors and habits do you participate in that are limiting your growth?  The first step to change is Acknowledging your negative behaviors and habits.  The first step is often the most difficult, but it’s the Best Gift you can Give Yourself!!!!

To The Universe

Love Brandy

May you Always have ENOUGH!!!!

“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

 I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

 I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

 I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

 I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

 I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

 I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye."  -Author Unknown

                I read this beautiful poem on Facebook, and was truly touched.  These words got me thinking about how we wish the best for people around us all the time.  What is “The Best?”  What if our definition of “The Best” was simply shaped by our lives, good and bad.

                If you never experience bad times or negative emotions how can you expect to TRULY APPRECIATE the good things in life.  Life is contrast.  You can’t have a beautiful sunny day without the chilly darkened night.

                It is the things that we have overcome that make Success So SWEET!!!  If we were given everything on a silver platter, what kind of value would we give it?  I am pretty sure the value would be relatively low.

                I am not saying that I hope anyone has to experience Lack, Loss, Pain, or Sadness.  What I am saying is that it is helpful to remember that it is the “Not So Good Stuff” which makes us truly appreciate and value our lives.

                I try, and sometimes fail, to remember the blessings in my life when I am faced with the “Not So Good Stuff” or the downright “Really BAD Things.”  The one thing I know is that life never stays the same, we are always changing, and the Sun rises every morning to banish the darkness.  There is comfort in that certainty.

                I am a happy person today.  In the past I have been a miserable, selfish, and desperate person but I am truly blessed because I am still here.  Everyday isn’t perfect but every day “Is Enough.”   

        

To The Universe

Love Brandy

How We See Ourselves is Our Reality!!!

“The truth is that we co-create our experience CONSTANTLY, as you believe, so will you perceive.”  Dave Elliott

How often does how we see our lives become our Actual Life?   I am pretty sure it’s Almost Always.  If we think our lives are sad, impoverished, loveless, and desperate, that’s what we will see.  When we believe our lives are filled with negative people and emotions, that’s exactly what we will see and attract.

If you can look at your life as a gift, even the bad stuff, then you will begin to see the greatness of your life.  It won’t matter how much you have, you will always feel happy and blessed.  When you look for the bad in your life, you are sure to find it.  Everyone has “bad” in their lives, it’s what we do with the “bad” stuff that will set our course.

Are we going to grow from the negative, do we learn from our mistakes, are we grateful?  These are questions everyone should take the time to think about.  If you can honestly answer “Yes” to those questions, then you are on a path to believing, perceiving, and living a Great Life.

It is up to us to choose the path we will walk, what decisions we make, what steps we are willing to take to create the lives we dream of.  We are the ones who choose how we see ourselves AT THIS MOMENT.  If you see yourself surrounded by negativity it will drown you, and it will be that much more difficult to bring happiness into your life. 

If you work towards seeing positivity in your life, it will lift you up and make it that much easier to have more of the same greatness come your way.

To The Universe

Love Brandy

Moments are Fuel for Your Future!!!

Good Morning Universe.  Another Friday is here to greet us, and I want to send everyone into the weekend with some thoughts about the Moments that Make Our Lives.

Many times in my life I have lived in Sadness, Anxiety, Stress, and a multitude of other negative emotions.  I dwelled on all the bad things in my life.  Whether it was a bad feeling, emotion, or action I let it creep into my daily existence.

I spent years focusing on what was wrong with my life.  What was wrong with my life was my perspective.  When I focused on all the Negativity in my life I began to live in Negativity.  I never saw happiness because how I viewed my life, is what turned into my Actual Life.

I realize how each moment that we hold onto is shapes us and our lives.  This afternoon I was petting our dog Annie and was filled with happiness, so I decided to make an effort to HOLD ON TO this memory for future use.  Next time I feel Negativity creeping in I have to focus on the Good Stuff, the Memories that I cherish will be the tools I use to combat the dreaded Negativity.

It sounds so simple, but it takes work.  It takes practice to change our patterns of thinking and our behaviors.  It takes WORK to recall those “happy moments, memories, or feelings” every time life gets you down.  It takes practice.

These days patience and practice seem like virtues that are in short supply.  Our culture is obsessed with convenience and entertainment at the push of a button or the click of a mouse.  In the information age we have forgotten that time heals, and that Life Is Not Always on Our Schedule.

We must walk through each moment towards our future, good or bad its part of life.  We can’t hop into a Delorean and go into the future.  We can’t skip the tough times because life lessons learned are important.  Besides if we could actually “fast forward” through life, it would be over WAY to Soon.

Hold on to the good moments, live in the present but never lose sight of your future.  Use the good moments as fuel to keep you going when you face negativity.  Let’s retrain our brains to remember the Good Stuff and Let Go of The Bad.

To The Universe

Love Brandy

Change Your Life based on What YOU WANT!!!

                Good Morning Universe.  Here we are at the end of January 2013 and I am Proud to say that I have been sticking to my intentions for 2013.

                Those people who have followed my writings know that I spoke about my intentions for 2013 at the start of this year.  One of my biggest intentions for 2013 was eating better and exercising on a regular basis.

                One of the goals I desired to reach for this year was to weight loss.  Honestly, who hasn’t made the New Years Resolution to “Get Healthy” and “Lose Weight” at least once in their life.  I know I have made that resolution more than once, but I never really kept it.

                I have lost weight before in my life, the problem was that I didn’t lose weight in a healthy way.  In the past when I have focused on losing weight it was focused on the motto, “whatever way I can lose weight is Fine for Me.”

                This negative model for weight loss encouraged negative behaviors like, starvation, use of drugs that caused weight loss, or just plain unhealthy eating.  I was not focused on Long Term success.  I wanted results, and I wanted them NOW!!!

                As many of you know if you make significant changes in your lifestyle based on Negative Desires, you lose sight of the Real Goal.  The Real Goal is long term success and happiness, shortcuts just won’t stick.

                The difference between how I am achieving my goals now as compared to the past is that I have recognized where my true desire is.  Before now I just wanted to be Skinny so other people would find me more attractive or be envious of me.  Today I am more focused on how I FEEL ABOUT MYSELF, not how OTHER FEEL ABOUT ME.

                This is a MAJOR shift in my perspective, and has resulted in AMAZING RESULTS.  When I focused more on the worth other people assigned to me, I neglected the most important part of TRUE CHANGE.  True and lasting change in your attitude and behavior is only Successful and Fulfilling if it comes from YOU.

                It doesn’t matter what other people think about you.  What matters most is What You Think About Yourself.  If you are Operating from Love and not harming others you will see a path laid out for you that is More Amazing then you could ever picture.

                I am proud to share my journey with you, and hope that each of you will see the true value of Loving yourself and sharing that Love with the World.

To The Universe

Love Brandy