Boundaries…They are So Important!!!

                Good Morning Universe.  Today I have been considering how our lives can be pulled in different directions by the people around us.  I am not talking about our casual acquaintances, I am talking about the people in our lives that are close to us.

                People that are close to us can mean many different things.  They can include family, close, friends, co-workers and other people that we are not always able to distance ourselves from.   Sometimes we can choose who we surround ourselves with.  Other times we are committed to having people in our lives.

                The problem is that the people that “Have” to be in our lives can often be the most demanding, negative, and draining.  The simple answer to the question of how to handle being pulled in different directions or handling negativity is BOUNDARIES.

                Boundaries, in theory, are simple to devise and seemingly simple to enforce.  Though I know that when it comes to people that are closest to us, boundaries are actually very difficult to construct and keep.

 

                When considering how to set up good boundaries and keep them functioning it is important to remember that you must be placing these boundaries for yourself and others OUT OF LOVE.  Don’t place boundaries and expectations on other people or yourself to force some type of compliance or change.

                When you set boundaries based solely on your own needs or desires that isn’t healthy, That’s EGO.  When you set boundaries based on LOVE and a desire to bring more happiness and contentment into your life then you can see positive results.

                The most important thing to remember about boundaries is that they Start With You.  The boundaries that are most important are your emotional boundaries.  Ask yourself, what are the things that are necessary for you in order to be happy.  Ask yourself what limits you will put on people around you who are negative, needy, mean, or even just apathetic.

                Once you know what actions and emotions you need from yourself and others in your life you can begin to set boundaries that will enhance your life and in turn others.  Don’t forget that a key component to boundaries is ENFORCEMENT.  Don’t set boundaries and then let yourself or other people constantly cross them, this is just a waste of time.  You Can Do It!!!

To The Universe

Love Brandy